My Father my Hero

Happy Father’s Day Dad



Happy Father’s Day Dad. This was an old post as well as a copy of an email I sent my father for Father’s Day years ago now. I feel inclined to share it every year, since it speaks volumes about how lucky I was and am to have this man as my Father.


  • How to pull his finger
  • How to appreciate everything I have or own
  • How to look something up in a dictionary
  • How to box
  • How to hit a baseball.. By practicing with a ping-pong ball.
  • How to fish
  • How to hunt…. And how not to scratch my cornea on a tree twig
  • How not to slide down the windshield of a car!
  • How to do backwards math
  • How to stick up for myself
  • How to have self-reliance
  • To be accountable for my actions
  • How NOT to play with a Rubik’s race.
  • How to moon your family on Christmas morning
  • To reap what I sow
  • How drinking alcohol is not all it’s cracked up to be… especially the morning after.
  • How to be independent
  • How to trust and be trust worthy
  • Learn the difference between what is good and what is right.
  • How to be humble.
  • How to never take anything or anyone for granted
  • What it means to be a friend
  • How to install a water heater
  • How to treat others
  • How to be yourself, not someone else
  • The difference between arrogance and courage.
  • How to never give up, and never quit
  • How to kill a raccoon in your attic with a compound bow.
  • How to feel safe
  • How to install a garbage disposal
  • How to change the oil in my car
  • How to install a car radio
  • How to properly install a new light switch
  • How to understand and appreciate your family lineage
  • How to appreciate where you came from

My father taught me that we all get one chance to make our mark on this world, and if there is anything worth doing, it’s worth doing right.

I am the man I am today because my father cared enough to teach me how to BE a man.

He taught me how to become a man and he still teaches me every time I see him or talk to him on how to be a better man.

Everything that is good in me, is a direct result from the man who calls himself my father.

Chance favors the prepared mind, and my father never wanted me to be ill prepared.

Thanks dad for being you.

I am proud to say you are my father, and I brag about being your son.

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Who Are You?

Best Pre Workout Speech of All-Time By Mark Bell “Who Are You?” CLEAN VERSION – YouTube.

I parallel a lot of contrasting things in my life. The drive I have to succeed as a Nurse Practitioner is seeded and found in the very same spot that drives me to succeed physically in CrossFit and now as a Weightlifter. That courage, that gumption, moxie, willingness to suffer, perseverance to take another step is all the same. Whether in academic, professional or physical pursuits, the will to keep moving forward is the same.

I am a firm believer in the idea that our genuine character is revealed during our darkest hours. How do you perform, how do you act, react and navigate your way through hell?

How well do you dance in the rain?

Who are you when no one else is around? What energy moves you from point A to point B on your journey? Who are you? Really. Who are you really?

This ‘pre-workout’ speech by Mark Bell is so simplistic but amazingly cathartic. I’ve been a fan of his for quite some time and follow him from a distance. While I may not have any interest in the sport of Power Lifting, I am interested in learning from those who have something to teach. Success comes in many forms, and I’m wanting and willing to learn where, when and from whomever I can.

It’s time for a Gut Check


What I believe

believe1. It takes a village to raise a child

2. Hate begets more severe hate, but love somehow does not

3. people kill people, not guns

4. people kill people, not cars

5. people kill people, not planes

6. we have a responsibility to suck it up and survive, not passively walk through life like a victim

7. we are our own worst enemy

8. advice always sounds great when you’re dishing it out.

9. complaining always sounds so horrible when it’s not coming from your own mouth

10. nobody communicates anymore, they just scream empty statements

11. if 1 out of every 100 people would truly pay it forward, the world would be a safer place

12. learning can be very difficult, especially when most of us are tone deaf

13. Occam’s razor can be applied to anything and everything life throws at you

14. there is a reason we have one mouth and two ears: listen twice as much as you speak – some still haven’t figured that one out

15. we’ve begun to hate each other so much that it’s now a catch phrase (haters)

16. i refuse to believe that today’s children need/require/should be treated with psychotropic medications. what happened?

17. the world is at our fingertips, yet we have lost the ability to connect to our neighbors without a device

18. health is not passive. It’s your fault you are in the condition you are in. you are not a victim.

19. happiness is not a situational result.

20. what you say is ultimately more important than what you do. physical injuries can heal, emotional ones sometimes do not.

21. excuses are not promises, but promises have some how become excuses?

22. nothing can replace good ole’ fashion hard work. Earn it.

23.freedom is not free. The only time most of us remember this is during state and national holiday recognition.

24. if experience is your only education, you might be missing something.

25. we should spend more time disconnected than connected. Go offline.

What I’m reading: A Grim Outlook on Nursing? (NP & PA Student Blog)

I came across this blog post this AM that talks about the aggravating reality we Nurses and Nurse Practitioners are facing these days. The hard truths about our health care system and the direction it’s heading:

I am currently in a class called “Societal Forces” as a precursor to my first semester of advanced assessment in the Adult/Gero Primary Care Nurse Practitioner track. The teachers are passionate and well informed. The speakers are excellent, but the subject matter…The subject matter is frankly depressing. The class theme seems to be: “Here is how messed up the system you are entering is. Good luck.”

via NP & PA Student Blog : A Grim Outlook on Nursing. (click and read the full post)

I can’t refute any of the truths the student discusses, but I don’t think it will change my mind or deter me from keeping my glass half full.

What about you?

via NP & PA Student Blog : A Grim Outlook on Nursing.

Science Explains Why We Overeat (and How to Stop It)

So this lil video VAGUELY resembles the theory and reasoning behind eating ‘like a caveman’ a.k.a. the Paleolithic diet. Hmm…




Science Explains Why We Overeat (and How to Stop It): “Overeating is a huge problem, even for healthy people, but the solution is more complicated than just putting the fork down. Your willpower is limited, and the mechanisms that make us overeat are hardwired, as this video explains. All is not lost, however.

This video from ASAP Science explains the science behind why we overeat—namely that when your stomach is empty, Ghrelin, a hunger-stimulating hormone, is released and tells your brain to eat. Normally, when you’re full, your body releases another hormone called Leptin, which kills your appetite. It’s not that this mechanism is broken in modern humans: The theory is that high energy (fatty, sugary, carb-loaded) foods used to be scarce and our bodies are biologically wired to crave them when they’re available, overwhelming our body’s natural hungry/full response. Since we can get them all the time now, we want them all the time.

It’s not a perfect theory, and ASAP Science cites some of the studies used for the case at the link below, but it makes some sense—especially when you consider the impact widely-available unhealthy food has (compared to healthy ones) on us. So how do we fight back? Like we said, willpower is limited, so bolster it by ditching the junk and rebooting your diet. Surrounding yourself with the good stuff will make sure you eat the good stuff. Also, take it slow and make smart, sensible changes that make it easy to stick to your plan. You’re building a new, healthy you, not ‘dieting.’

The Science of Appetite – Beating Overeating | YouTube”


What exactly is Obamacare and what did it change?

I saw this posted on Facebook this AM, and thought I’d share: (shout out to Ruth)

Here’s a VERY simple, straightforward, and thorough explanation of what “ObamaCare” REALLY means; what it has done so far, and what is yet to come; in chronological order, with links to the pertinent sections of the actual bill so you can check the accuracy of the statements for yourself instead of just expecting you to blindly believe whatever the author feels like saying.

It was referring to the post below: (follow link)


CaspianX2 comments on ELI5: What exactly is Obamacare and what did it change?: “Okay, explained like you’re a five year-old (well, okay, maybe a bit older), without too much oversimplification, and (hopefully) without sounding too biased:

What people call ‘Obamacare’ is actually the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act. However, people were calling it ‘Obamacare’ before everyone even hammered out what it would be. It’s a term mostly used by people who don’t like the PPACA, and it’s become popularized in part because PPACA is a really long and awkward name, even when you turn it into an acronym like that.

Anyway, the PPACA made a bunch of new rules regarding health care, with the purpose of making health care more affordable for everyone. Opponents of the PPACA, on the other hand, feel that the rules it makes take away too many freedoms and force people (both individuals and businesses) to do things they shouldn’t have to.

So what does it do? Well, here is everything, in the order of when it goes into effect (because some of it happens later than other parts of it):

(Note: Page numbers listed in citations are the page numbers within the actual document, not the page numbers of the PDF file)”


If you are interested in the Affordable Care Act it’s worth a look. I for one found it informative, especially for someone like me who is uninformed and is still trying to formulate my own opinion of this new mandate.

Still think obesity is not your problem??

So, do you still think that your fellow American’s waistlines and health are not your concern???

Seems that your tax dollars are paying for their fatness (sorry for  being so blunt). Tax dollars are paying for a ‘bigger’ hospital for these ‘bigger’ patients. 

Seems that we are investing in their obesity instead of investing in preventing it. This is the precise difference between reactive and proactive medicine/intervention. There is nothing proactive about this.


N.J. hospitals adapting to larger patients –

“Hospitals throughout North Jersey are buying larger beds and operating tables, and wider wheelchairs with reinforced steel frames, and building specialized rooms to treat the growing ranks of obese patients. Denise Arzoomanian and Steve Cicala lifting Harvey Weber, director of the mobile ICU/EMS unit of Englewood Hospital and Medical Center, to demonstrate a ramp and stretcher used to move heavier people. CHRIS PEDOTA / STAFF PHOTOGRAPHER Buy this photo Denise Arzoomanian and Steve Cicala lifting Harvey Weber, director of the mobile ICU/EMS unit of Englewood Hospital and Medical Center, to demonstrate a ramp and stretcher used to move heavier people.

Englewood Hospital and Medical Center debuted a new stretcher and loading ramp this month for ambulances to transport patients weighing up to 1,100 pounds. Hackensack University Medical Center is spending $200,000 on two new operating tables to hold extra-large patients.

And St. Joseph’s Regional Medical Center has four new bariatric rooms with wider doors, special beds and ceiling lifts that can hold patients in excess of 1,000 pounds, accommodations that cost about $400,000. Renovation plans for the pediatric unit at the Paterson hospital include a room for obese teens.

‘Not only here, but across the country, you’re always looking to accommodate larger, bigger and heavier because it’s what we’re seeing,’ said Madelyn Pearson, senior vice president for patient-care services at Englewood. ‘With every new bit of construction and new purchase, we are looking at how we can best accommodate larger patients.’”

Yes. This angers me and gets under my skin.

Career mistakes = No Job?

I found this via a friend on Facebook. Why is this an awesome list?….

Because NONE of these listed mistakes apply to my career choices as a nurse!!!!

The Top 10 College Mistakes That Will NOT Help You Find a Career:

  1. Getting a degree where the only way you can get a job is by getting your masters or PhD.
  2. Heading into a career field with no jobs available.
  3. Getting a graduate degree that wasn’t necessary because you could have gotten the same job without it.
  4. Not conducting informational interviews to find out that you hate your chosen career before you start working in it.
  5. Not making a plan for what you are going to do after college so you just take the first job that popped up after graduation (that you hate).
  6. Not building a network during college because you spent too much time studying or partying.
  7. Picking a major where there is only one type of job after graduation instead of having many different options that you can pursue.
  8. Picking a major that you are good at in school but you actually despise it.
  9. Picking a major because someone else said that you should.
  10. Since you can’t find a job after college, you decide to head to grad school instead (and still can’t find a job after grad school).

via College Mistakes That Will NOT Help You Find a Job | Classy Career Girl.