“It doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it, focus on the people that do”
Thank you Mr. Ferriss, for the advice on dealing with the haters.
Ferriss’ 7 Principles:
- It doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it, focus on the people that do
- 10% of people will find a way to hate you – don’t take it personally
- When you try to please everyone, you end up alienating the more valuable people
- If 95% of the people like you, you’re not doing it right
- You want to practice being foolish and stupid
- Living well is the best revenge
- Keep calm and carry on
It’s been an interesting couple weeks for me. I’m doing the work thang. I’m doing the coaching thang… and now the YouTube endeavor with scrubsBeat is slowly gaining some momentum in the popularity department.
- Sidebar: the popularity is due mostly in part to the amazing people over at Scrubs Magazine coupled with the raving popularity of Katie Duke. I can’t say I garnish a lot of ‘followers’ or readers.
With this new found public interest (traffic) comes the good …… aaaand the bad. The ‘haters’ are cropping up. I guess I’ve been lucky over the years being the ‘invisible’ (behind the scenes) blogger. I dodged the hater bullet. Or maybe I just never payed much attention? Either way. I’m noticing it now. There are some seriously mean people out there, let me tell ya. Isn’t the catch-phrase internet trolls?
I have a new-found respect for Katie Duke and others who are in the public eye. I don’t think anyone looks good under a microscope. And when your every move is judged and critiqued.. I can completely understand how one can get negative. Yet Katie and others continue to plug away, navigating through the crap maintaining their composure with great poise, sharing all things positive.
I started to let the ‘meanness’ get to me…
Then I realized, I don’t blog, tweet, post updates or record video with the intent of pleasing the masses. I do all of it as a way of sharing my story. Sharing my experiences. And while I’m at it, maybe even impart some knowledge (droppin’ knowledge bombs peeps). I started this whole blogging thing years ago (hard to believe I’ve been blogging for over 8 years!) because I wanted to ‘get things off my chest’.. and I wanted to find out if all these crazy things that I had been experiencing were unique to my corner of the world, or that perhaps I wasn’t alone. Along the way I’ve gained a tad bit of experience, and have met some pretty awesome people.
Over the years I learned that I’m not alone. That my crazy life is not all that unique. That as a nurse practitioner, my journey has been shared by many others before and after me. That my crazy journey with my weight, my exercising, my eating was more common than I imagined. That my discovery and ‘passion’ for CrossFit (and its overall message) was part of something bigger than I ever imagined.
So, I ramble on today just to validate that while there are a crap-ton of haters and negative Nate’s & Nelly’s, there are an infinitely larger number of positive change agents out there. People who are doing what I do. Trying what I am trying. Putting themselves out there. Sharing their stories.
Those are the ones that matter.
An old friend of mine has been trading positivity with me lately on Facebook. We both came across a great saying:
“Iron sharpens Iron”
While the quote has a strong ‘exercise/fitness’ undertone to it, it can and does apply to everything in my life (and yours too). Be the light, (and)or be the mirror. Whatever you do, don’t let the darkness swallow you up. Some people just don’t get ‘it’. Focus on the ones that do.
Stay strong gang.
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